There is almost a natural law operative: the more you want something, the less chance you have of getting it. Actress Lauren Bacall has described this “natural law” quite perceptively:
“I think you can want something a lot and not get it. But if you stop thinking about it, the chances of getting it are greater. Somehow if you’re unfocused on it, that’s when it comes to you. When you’re searching for something desperately, that’s when you don’t find it. Desperation does not make us attractive to other people.”
O’Brien, Patricia. The Woman Alone. New York: Quadrangle/The New York Times Book Co., 1973. 123–24. Print.