Self

self-actualizing personality

“Their behavior is marked by simplicity and naturalness, and by lack of artificiality and straining for effort. This does not necessarily mean consistently unconventional behavior.

Actually, the ‘self-actualizing personality’ is not extremely unconventional. His unconventionality is not superficial but essential and internal. It is his impulse, thought, and consciousness that are unconventional, spontaneous and natural.

Apparently recognizing that the world of people in which he lives could not understand or accept this, and since he has no wish to hurt people or to fight them over trivialities, he will go through the ordinary trivial conventions with a good-humored shrug and with the best possible grace. . . . But the fact that this ‘conventionality’ is a cloak which rests very lightly on his shoulders and is easily cast aside can be seen from the fact that the self-actualizing person practically never allows convention to hamper him or inhibit him from doing anything that he considers very important and basic.”

Hayakawa, S.I. Symbol, Status, and Personality. New York: Harcourt, Brace & World, Inc., 1963. 55–56. Print.

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Philosophy

immediate fulfillment

Accustomed to the peaceful, she turned in reaction to the picturesque. She loved the sea only for its storms, green foliage only when it was scattered amid ruins. It was necessary for her to derive a sort of personal profit from things, she rejected as useless whatever did not minister to her heart’s immediate fulfillment—being of a sentimental rather than an artistic temperament, in search of emotions, not of scenery.

—Gustave Flaubert, Madame Bovary (1857)

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Friendship

3 A.M. friends

“Oh, I loved Jimmy. He was… very shy. And he had a very unhappy childhood, and he was very tortured. Sometimes he’d talk to me until, like, three in the morning and we’d be on the set at seven. And he’d walk right past me, as if he didn’t even know my name.

At first, I felt very hurt. And I’d say, ‘Jimmy?’ you know. ‘Jimmy? Are you alright?’ And he just kind of slunk on by. And then I thought, ‘He’s revealed too much of himself.’ ”

TNT Extra: A Very Special Conversation with Elizabeth Taylor. Hosted by Larry King. TNT, Los Angeles. 13 Mar. 1993.

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Mortality

Good People

What kinds of movies do I like the best? If I had to make a generalization, I would say that many of my favorite movies are about Good People.

It doesn’t matter if the ending is happy or sad. It doesn’t matter if the characters win or lose. The only true ending is death. Any other movie ending is arbitrary.

If a movie ends with a kiss, we’re supposed to be happy. But then if a piano falls on the kissing couple, or a taxi mows them down, we’re supposed to be sad. What difference does it make?

The best movies aren’t about what happens to the characters. They’re about the example that they set.

Continue:

Ebert, Roger. “Reflections after 25 years at the movies.” Roger Ebert’s Journal. 12 Apr. 1992.

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